Dad Disowns Son Via Letter...

At some point the guy will, "and he did this in a letter..." something like that.

Appropriate:


Yeah I've posted it before but I love loljesus pics.

I love that pic! Gotta love loljesus pics.

See the problem we have here is that we have people who were too busy listening to talking snakes and bushes instead of Jesus!

*** block capitals.

Now to read it.

EDIT

Father is a douche, son is better off without a 'tard like that in his life. Father or otherwise.

So having someone else deliver the news for you is more manly than writing a letter? lol...

I do disagree and quite frankly if I were in this kids position I'd be glad he didn't come say it to my face because then I'd actually have to see the guy again...

The other thing is it seems like a lot of you act like this isn't a common occurrence... like family is this magical creature that will love you no matter what and will do everything like they're supposed to... it just doesn't happen like that... I've had some friends that when they turn 18 and they're done with school their parents just tell em to get out... for no other reason than its just not their responsibility anymore...

Yes, he's taking parts of the religion and contorting them to say something they don't say. He is using it as an excuse to push away his son, when he should be loving his son.

Hate the sin, not the sinner...yadda yadda


Very appropriate. He was clear in his message. Love others, put them before yourself. No exceptions. By the rule you judge others, you will so be judged.


I'm done, no need in going down the theist v atheist road again.

Or just skip the jesus step and be a decent *** person on your own.

Family isn't a magical creature no. However, it is something that you consciously make. No one puts a gun to your head and says: "impregnate this woman." He made a conscious choice to start a family. Part of being a parent is taking responsibility for your child.

If one is not prepared to love a child unconditionally, one shouldn't have a child to begin with.


Well I think (for at least ME), Christianity teaches how to be a decent person in some ways.

Stuff like helping those less unfortunate, loving thy neighbor, honoring your family, etc blah blah blah.

Not everyone needs Christianity to be a decent person, but lots of people need it to have hope.

Faith that there is love for you no matter how other people treat you goes a long way.

Oh I 100% agree. I've noticed atheists tend to be some of the nicest people I ever meet!

I think what made my Catholic family different growing up, is we were told to read the bible on our own and develop our own opinions before we went to mass. And that it was OK to disagree with the priest. I know my mom disagreed with the priests because they condemned birth control pills. My family just told me try and be a good person. At the end of the day God doesn't give a damn if you sin once and while, just ask for forgiveness and be a good person.

That might just be the first religious quip I have ever heard that makes sense!

+10 Sagi points for joo!

Can I ask if you are pro life or pro choice?


Edit: also, many people have children without actually making a conscious choice to start a family...

Both. Pro-Choice for others, but pro-life for myself it that makes sense.

Conscious choice to have a kid = conscious choice to start family. I fail to see otherwise.

I didn't make a conscious choice to start a family, I have a 7 1/2 year old son now. Young people do stupid ***.. Pull out and 'it'll never happen' or condom breaks.. There's a bunch of different ways..

What I mean is that many people make a conscious decision to have sex with each other but do not make a conscious decision to get pregnant and start a family... for all you know he could be bound by his religion or his wife/the mother of the kid made a decision to keep the kid even if it wasn't planned... There are plenty of ways for you to not make a conscious decision to have a kid...

I read the original article, and the son says he finally worked up the courage to tell his father he was gay.

He told him over the telephone.

5 years later, he tells him "F--- You" over the internet.

It's easy to understand why the son was afraid to approach his dad with the truth. However, I don't find any of it particularly courageous, and I'm sure I'll be lambasted for having that viewpoint.



The father likely says he believes in God, and believes in the Bible.

If he read these words and took them to heart, he would have handled this situation very differently.

1 John 4:8
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

1 John 4:20
If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?

Luke 11:11-13
11 If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?
12 Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion?
13 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?

While it's true the Bible condemns homosexuality, it also condemns any heterosexual activity outside of marriage as well.

One wonders if the father would have disowned his son for having heterosexual sex outside of marriage. If not, the father is indeed a hypocrite.

People can believe what they want to believe. My point is the father likely doesn't even understand the book he's living by.

You made a conscious choice to put your penis in a vagina, or vice versa. (depending if your female or male).

If you arn't prepared for the ramifications of sex and children don't have vaginal sex!


If your having unprotected vaginal sex. 1) Be prepared for kids/family 2) be prepared for STI's & HIV.

There comes a point where you can't pull the I didn't know excuse- unprotected sex is one of them.

In doing so you accepted the risks though, that is a conscious decision to go ahead and do it anyway so it kind of was >.>

Unfortunately, many professed Christians are the biggest hypocrites on the face of the planet. I sincerely hope that will change, but I fear it will not.

Yet another reason to never judge someone by their affiliations, looks, or background.

Decision by omission.

Spot on there mate, religious people pick and choose the parts they like from the Bible like I pick and choose candy at the pick n mix store.

Yes and I stepped up and am being a parent.. That's not the point.

I never said "let's have a baby!".. I only made the conscious decision to have sex, kinda the same way you only make the conscious decision to get in the car and go to the store, not the conscious decision to die in a fiery 50 car pile up that COULD happen but is not guaranteed.

Me knowing the risks, doesn't make


that any less true in my case or anyone else's. Knowing the risk (pregnancy) isn't the same as making the choice to start a family.

Yet we wonder why we are the brunt of so much criticism.

Your penis upon, unprotected, entry is you signing on the dotted line for parental responsibilities. Even courts of law agree with that.

Getting in a car isn't signing on the dotted line for death. Doesn't work like that....

I'm not going to sit here and argue semantics with you. I agree with what Flavin said and I'm an example of what Flavin said.

It's not semantics- It's common sense. I'm sorry I'm not sympathizing with you for a decision you had 100% control over.

Lol I'm not asking for any sympathy..

All understood it was this:

It's pretty simple - the father doesn't accept the person his son is. To him, it isn't any more personal than disconnecting cable. And overall, yeah, I'm on the side that "the son is better off." That doesn't mean it isn't shitty. But cheerful, loving and caring way COULD you tell your son that you disapprove of their entire life? Can't really do it.

There are lots of crazy and terrible turns a relationship can take. I mean, how many people didn't even get the chance to have their father reject them?

I think the bad thing about the situation is that the father rejected the son at all - not how the message was delivered.

And some people say that religon isnt harmful....

Crap, I wish there was a freedom of opinion about religion and your statement.. :/