I Don't Get It, Why Do People Feel The Need To Leave Their Parental Home...

I stayed till I was 21, less of an economic reason, (salaried position, ect.) but more of a lack of reason to move out... not so small of a house, and my dad was cool as long as I contributed a bit.

On the other hand if given the choice again, I would move out as soon as I could have. The freedom is amazing, and I don't have to worry about waking other people up with my loud *** music :3

I left when I was 18 when I enlisted in the Navy, broke my ankle and was separated, they wouldn't let me stay so I went to my mom's for a bit...then left there, started a business.
It didn't go well, so I ended up back at my dad's, but he's 20 miles from any jorbs.
finally got myself into two of them, pretty much living paycheck to paycheck when my roomate doesn't pay his part...and I recently lost one because I had a panic attack and fled @.@;
I like to think I'm independent, but bad luck has *** with my life for the past ten years and it really looks like I'm going to end up going back. (21 in June)
As much as I dislike depending on anyone, I don't see any answers.

Ill give ya one of the best reasons on this fourm not to leave home. Try being perminitly disabled.

Gotta job right outa highschool, my dad even offered/suggested that i take the summer off, even tho he wasnt in the greatest position to afford it. Simply because he never had that choice as a teen. Desided to hop right in and took the job. Two years later, through the blaintent stupidity and arrogence of the managment, and malpratic by the company doctor.. who i found out is not a real doctor at all, I suffered a massive back injury which has led me to become perminitly dissabled. Took several months of theropy to be able to walk right again. So dont assume everyone staying at home is jsut a 40yr lazy *** with no drive. (Oh and jsut to top that off, the injury that lead to me being disabled... occured 2 days before my 21st bday)


On the other hand it rly does depend on the person and how theyve grown up. My brother was rdy to live on his own, and did, when he was like 16. On the same token i no a girl who is like 25 or so who is about as ready as a 5 year old. So it rly does depend on how you were raised. Not only the parents effort but your own as well.

lol i left home 2 weeks after i became 18. i moved 500km away and had to earn my own money while i was going to school :P
was a hard but also awesome time, learned a lot of stuff about life ;)

Obviously it depends on the household. Not everybody has a lovey,cushy, supportive environment. I do and I was told so long as I was fulltime in school they'd support me..which might've been a mistake because I think Ive held on waaay too long.

I couldnt afford to live on my own now and I dont want to live on my own here because Id prefer not to stay here forever. The goal is for me to get my RN degree next year and then I could live anywhere I wanted because Nurses are in demand everywhere. I do want the independence desperately though, after a while living at home no matter how wonderful it is starts to feel...crowded..

after highschool I was like "why would I want to leave and struggle over rent and annoying room mates?" but now its like "dang, I need to go"

I actually moved in and out three times between 18 and 25. Not due to any big plans that fell through, but just because it logistically worked out that way. (Multi-year process involving college and dad moving to Hawaii while maintaining a house in California.)

I was amazed by how much living with parents rubbed me the wrong way once I had been out on my own for years. It seems to be that way for most people I talk to: if you've never had your own place for an extended period of time, and your situation doesn't abjectly suck, there's nothing compelling you to move out because you're comfortable. But once you have, moving back in becomes basically unbearable.

It's an identity thing. Once you're on your own, your identity no longer involves your parents or siblings as a primary presence. That changes more than you could imagine. Once you've made that break, just having people say you need to call and let them know where you are if you'll be out until 2am becomes amazingly... violating.

It is easy to leave home when you family is overbearing.

This.

Also I mean cmon have you people seen Step brothers!?!

^ QFT

I just moved out for the third time this past weekend. My first time was when I went off to college. I moved back in shortly after dropping out and after a nasty break-up with a live-in girlfriend. You learn a lot about yourself when you live on your own. Don't let your pride get in the way however. Sometimes it is good to allow yourself to move back in, *** what you did on your own, including what you could have done differently.

I see each opportunity as valuable life experience. Also, let's not forget, western culture makes people feel like freaks if they don't move out right away at age 18... this is why some people almost feel pressured to leave the nest.

As a species we are used to staying near our family. We lived in communities, villages, where our elders were our parents and aunts/uncles and friends parents who taught us how to live and survive.

Nowadays, though, it is different. People are generally raised without adult supervision. People want to be independant and staying with family is looked upon as a weakness. Sadly, it isn't. It only makes you a stronger, better person.

We have seperated ourselves from those around us. Sure you visit with friends and family, but at the end of the day you close the door off to all of them. Fear is one of the things that has inspired this. We are taught to fear our neighbors and people we don't know. Another reason is laziness. We do not want to be responsible to them.

I prefer family, but maybe because I never really had one. I think it's a shame. I think children need more family values and to learn respect from their elders.

There is nothing wrong with staying with your family. There is, however, something wrong with judging and condemning someone based upon your own fears.

WT# Raddy. you play D&D ?

ima need to buy a new set of dice then... o wonder if i can get pink/purple set...

Depends on the family situation. I personally get tired of living back in my home town over the summers running back and forth between my mom's house, dad's house, and grandmother's house to keep the family happy with me.

That's why I got a job this semester at school, got an apartment, and stayed here. I love my family and all... but dear God, there is no way I can handle another summer with them. To me, being independent = being happy. It's just my situation. It all really depends... For instance, my ex-girlfriend... well she had the most supportive and fun family I've ever seen... so she happily goes and visits during the summer and will stay there for weeks, despite having her own place 2 hours away.

Anyway, as for me... I was ready to get the hell out by 16.

I moved out when I was 16. I came back at 18 lol. I really did like living alone, but it was very troublesome at some point I got really bad sick and had to come back home on a summer at 17. It wasnt a forced decision either, but it was the best choice it seemed at that time, since I started university at 16 aswell.

I think living with parents is good, but leeching off them is just sad.

i had to get out... it was soon after my 21st b-day. things were going fine... my job was cutting the lawn and paying for internet/cable... that i could handle till my parents dropped the bomb on me... they wanted me to pay $450 a month + internet/cable...

i moved out simply for that reason... cause i could find a place of my own for that price.

My parents were very strict, and it was wonderful for me to move out. I would never have been able to survive on my own without the help of my husband, though, because I had been so sheltered I didn't know what to do. My folks had not let me watch TV, didn't let me watch movies rated above PG-13 (even in my high teens), I was only allowed to listen to Christian music and read Christian books (my parents were furious when the public school forced them to let me and my sister take biology classes that taught evolution as a theory. They demanded that we be in Christian biology that taught creation as fact.) We were not allowed to go to dances or go on dates. We were not allowed to wear makeup or cut our hair. My sister was kicked out of the house because she was so sick of having hot, heavy, waist-length dark brown hair in the middle of the summer, so she had a friend's mom who was a beautician cut her hair off to her shoulders. My parents kicked her out for it. True story.

I could never live with them again, and I doubt they would let me live with them again. Since moving out I have become agnostic instead of Christian, have gotten a tattoo, have developed a distinct enjoyment of whiskey and rum, and am no longer a virgin. (obviously, since I'm married. I would not doubt it if they expected me to be married for awhile and remain virginal, though.) So there's simply no way I'd be allowed back into their house, I am a heathen now.

I think it's healthy for kids to move out (eventually, when they feel ready, not at any set age) and become the leaders of their own lives. One of my aunts lived with her mother until the mother died, and the aunt to this day cannot make decisions for herself, doesn't know how to make or save money, and doesn't know what to do around other people. If she'd moved out when she was in her twenties or even thirties, instead of staying with her mother until she was 40-50's, she'd be a much more well-developed and capable person.

I was kicked out because i was a quite young man, who only cared for basketball at age 18 0days. Forced from home and family i had to survive in the wild streets of colorado......

But seriously when you're 18-20 some people kind of feel embarrassed when trying to meet girls or guys in some cases, while living w/ mom and dad.

Its cultural more than situational for a lot of people. Many cultures actually prefer to maintain long lineages within one household, encouraging the children to move in their spouses and children.

In the US and UK (and maybe a few more of the more developed EU countries), moving out at adulthood is a more common practice based on the socioeconomic structures of those countries. And its certainly easier to do so in places where there's more reliance on the credit-debit business model and more acceptance of the me-before-family independence ideologies.

But for the vast majority of the world's nations single lineage households are the norm more than the exception. Usually breaking out on one's own is prohibitively expensive and risky in areas where there's less economic freedom.

Good reason why I wouldn't keep a son in my house either, ofcourse that saying I am the complete oposite of that, it defyes the house rules, if you live with your parents, you are bound to follow the rules weather you like it or not, live alone and make your own way of living.

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I'm a daughter, not a son. But at any rate, I'm perfectly fine with not going back and they are perfectly fine with not having me, so it works out rather well. :-) That is one of the things I think is healthy, though, to be able to live on your own and determine which of your parents' rules you cannot abide by, because that helps you make you own family rules later, I think. For instance, I hated not being allowed to cut my own hair. So if I ever had a child, I would not impose a no-scissors rule on them. My biggest problem is that I am 24 and for some reason they still seem to think I should act like a 6-year old child. I will never understand parents, I don't think, until I am one. And hopefully that won't be for a long time, yet.

I moved out my mama house when I was 18, good riddance.

Because you don't want to end up like this

I Lived at home till I was 24 and the only reasoning that I stayed with My parents is because long before I was even old enough to have a DL it was suspended(LOL funny story but not really) So when I finally went and appealed the courts to get it back. Always hated having to live with my parents until I moved out and realized it not as easy as I once thought. I was never spoiled, the day i was old enough to work i got a job, If I wanted something I had to earn it. To this Day I hate even having to ask to barrow 5 bucks here and there for what ever reason. I keep telling My parents if stuff goes south im moving back in and I get the same reply "We changed the locks" and they did.

It seems a lot of people think that Moving out on there own or having a kid at young ages makes them more independent or an adult. And that is not always true.

I think that's stupid, not opening the doors to your son/daughter again, that's like having no place to go at the end of the road, feels pretty empty, my mom always let me know I am free to come back to her anytime I was in trouble, surprisingly she did let me come back with her grandson, as long as I follow her rules and help we live happy, she truly is a great mother.

Yes some rules I disagree with her that she imposed while I was growing up, but she had her reasons which I understand now. I think whenever I need to impose those rules on my son I'll be more flexible.

But that's sad, that one day you really need to come back home and they don't welcome you even if you are willing to cooperate. tsk tsk.

I never felt the urge to move out of "mom and dad's" I was working and going to school just down the street from home so why move out..

The first time I moved was when I got married @21...My wife and I had to move back in with her parents for 6ish months while we looked for a new place to live. Being married and living with the in-laws is a weird but it didn't bother nearly as much as it bother'd my wife.

ok, I'm sure all of us (even you HELP I AM TRAPPED IN 2006 PLEASE SEND A TIME MACHINE ***) can come to an agreement that due to the economy going in the shitter, that it would be a good idea to move into your parents' home (depending on the size of it) and share the household (bills, food, etc).

You could just get roomates that aren't related to you

Because after 18 youre an adult and shouldnt rely on your parents, if you were smart you wouldve gotten a job as soon as you turned 16 and saved up money. once you graduate high school thats pretty much when you should gtfo your parents home.