The few female players get a bad rep as being manipulative (for varying reasons). I can't lie and say I'm a saint; a little :3 face or a "{/cheer}! Thank you so much!" makes ANYONE feel good enough to complete a favor for you. But there's a definite line that should be drawn when it comes to people's feelings and I wish the better part of the ffxi community (male and female) realized this. So, my two points for this thread:
Crezelda said:
Entered gilgamesh with my bf of 6+ years. hit some rough patched but gave him a second chance. Cheated on me with a mithra who admitted to me latter shes attraced to taken guys... dont let Cassalot near your boyfriends/husbands, even if she's currently with a guy she stole from another ffxi player.
To Crezelda: I dated my HS sweetheart for 2 years and even went to his college to stay together. I'll stay short on the whole story and say within the first month at our new school he was playing mind games and cheating on me, a terrible blow I only discovered when his best friend confided much later. Despite, I stayed and fought tooth and nail to make it work, forgave again and again, and in the end all I received was serious paranoia-issues and a despairingly broken heart. In the 3 years of recovery I've had many of the same problems: staying up late at night, fretting about the past, reliving all of the pain. We passed each other on campus once while he was with his new lady to boot (she's UGLY! /howls with laughter), and I felt like I'd taken a {Asuran Fists} to the lungs. It'll get better, trust me. It'll take forever, but you'll be okay. {/comfort}
Second thing is... online relationships DO work. Following the fall-out with the college-frat-***, I meandered around with a few one night stands and random flings. I was trying to fill the void, but it was all meaningless. I started playing ffxi more and there I met a great guy, Heifong. {/laugh} I knew him for 7 months before we met in RL, and by 9 months he moved in with me. Like any relationship it isn't perfect yet but we've been living together since November and I can honestly say each day with him is wonderful.
And besides, I can make a few kissy faces and he lets me PL myself with his RDM. {/laugh} <3 <3!